Too Sensitive? What does this mean? What should you do with it? My suggestions.

It may look like this is over close to the middle. It's just because I'm still learning to edit. Hold on, there's a lot more, with what I think will be very helpful suggestions.When people say that you're "too sensitive" how are you supposed to take that? It's a nebulous accusation that leaves you feeling like you've done something wrong, with no way to resolve it, except to fake it. How can you work through this for yourself and figure out a plan of action?PLEASE NOTE: I'm not a doctor or a psychologist. One thing I didn't mention in the video. People who say "You're too sensitive" tend to say it forcefully. To those who are sensitive, that can come across as authoritative, and we feel like we have to believe it. Remember that something said louder or stronger is not truer. It can also make you feel backed into a corner. (I'm trying to avoid the word "bullied," but that's what it feels like.) All those feelings make it difficult for a sensitive person to think clearly and defend themselves (even to themselves).I've also found that people who say I'm too sensitive are looking to "fix" me in other areas. They're often bossy, though I don't think they see themselves that way. It usually boils down to them thinking that I should be like them. And while that's a fine personality for them, it's not me, and NOT who I want to be. It's exhausting to be in those kinds of relationships and will not be good for you in the long run. Since you can't magically become less sensitive -- and really, would you want to?* -- the only way you can get along with those people is to fake that you're not hurt. Just let them emotionally beat you up. In the long run, that will destroy you. It's inauthentic and you're experiencing and holding in a lot of hurt unnecessarily. You also can't really expect them to change. It's like the boys who like to have fights on the playground. They really enjoy it, and they don't feel bullied by each other; but some other kids would. They will not enjoy being around you if you're authentic. It genuinely offends them that you feel hurt.*Yes, you get hurt easily, but that's just the other side of the coin. Think about the good parts of being sensitive -- you're kinder to people, you empathize, etc. I hope this helps. I'd love to hear more of your experiences and how you've learned to handle this. Have you ever successfully gotten someone to accept you who thinks that you're too sensitive?

Love, love, love,
Alyce-Kay Ruckelshaus
Sweetwater, Tennessee USA

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